“It’s hard to believe something positive can come from something so painful but breakups are an opportunity for growth. Each relationship helps us learn what we want and more importantly what we don’t want.”
– Jennifer Marcenelle
Transforming a Heartbreak
Heartbreak can be devastating and traumatic no matter your age. And it’s not just in your head, research shows it takes a physical toll on your body. Former ER and critical care nurse Jennifer Marcenelle knows this all too well – both as a medical professional and from her personal life. When her marriage of 14 years dissolved she experienced numerous physical ailments, including chest pain, migraines, and severe bursitis.
She knew repairing her broken heart would take work. It’s tempting to numb the pain with momentary distractions like food and alcohol but as a board-certified, holistic, registered nurse with over 30 years of experience in the medical field, Jennifer had seen the damaging and lasting effects of ignored emotional injury. She was not going to let this happen to her.
Instead of diving into a pint of Ben and Jerry’s, she decided to fully embrace the healing power of heartache. She proactively turned her wounds into wisdom and her story is an empowering reminder to us all.
“It’s hard to believe something positive can come from something so painful but breakups are an opportunity for growth. Each relationship helps us learn what we want and more importantly what we don’t want…”
…says Jennifer whose divorce sparked her on a quest for self-reflection and improvement. She began examining the relationships in her life and realized that part of the problem was her, and the underlying issue was self-worth. Although she thought of herself as a confident and strong woman, she developed a relationship pattern of codependency. Her relationships were all one-sided. Instead of deriving happiness from her own energy within, she relied on outside sources. This external locus of control was incredibly damaging. Codependency is an issue that many people face, sometimes without even realizing it. Although it’s sometimes thought of as a weakness, codependency often relates to those who have been strong for too long.
“We have been conditioned to think that happiness and love come from another person and that’s simply not true. It needs to come from loving yourself first,” says Jennifer.
This realization not only helped heal her heart but it transformed other areas of her life. It changed her perspective on happiness which made her more confident professionally, and it also created a balance in her other non-romantic relationships. As she continued the journey of self-discovery, she began exploring other modalities for healing. She found that holistic techniques like meditation, deep breathing, yoga, and Gemstone and Diamond therapy, were incredibly helpful.
“We are multi-dimensional beings and so recovery from heartache requires a multi-dimensional holistic solution,” says Jennifer.
While there’s no quick ‘fix’ for a significant loss in your life, taking actions to minimize and better handle stressful, traumatic situations are the first steps to healing. It’s vital to let go of the shame and guilt often associated with certain stages of grief. Instead, try to confront your feelings (not simply numb them), focus on getting through things – as unpredictable as the process may be – and then move on to the next chapter. It is crucial to learn how to experience your emotions and allow them to flow through and pass.
“We have been conditioned to think that happiness and love come from another person and that’s simply not true. It needs to come from loving yourself first.”
– Jennifer Marcenelle
In An Interview/Article, Jennifer Marcenelle Can Share:
- Personal account of how healing from heartache transformed her life
- Insight and actionable advice people can use to heal from a broken heart
- Tips for improving emotional and mental health (for yourself and for relationships)
- How to turn wounds into wisdom and embrace the healing power of heartache
- Warning signs of codependent relationships
- Multi-dimensional holistic solutions for heartache
- Why emotional healing is crucial
Jennifer Marcenelle is urging awareness for mental health and emotional healing. She is sharing insight and actionable advice people can use to embrace the healing power of heartache and turn their wounds into wisdom.